Figuring it out

     If you know me, you know I have a hard time with my 5 year old son, Wyatt. If you don't, it's because he is borderline autistic, and has sensory processing issues. He, has a speech delay which doesn't help at all. Over the years my husband and I have tried speech therapy, many psychological techniques, moving him to different schools, changing his environment, giving him special treatments, being more strict, different ways of discipline and communication, play groups... so many things to help curb his behavior. Nothing seems to work. He has these awful emotional outbursts at home and in public over things as small as he got a different toy than his brother and sister or it's someone else's birthday and not his. His episodes can last  for hours, where he screams, kicks, hurts everyone around him, crys, yells, throws things, breaks things, rips clothing, throws himself and if possible his siblings onto the floor or ground. At times, he can be frightening. On top of his "episodes" he pees in his closet, lies all the time about everything, is demanding of both myself and his siblings, and whenever someone tries to talk to him- about anything- he immediately bursts into tears as if he is being threatened. Even when you just say "what did you learn in school today?"
  Needless to say, he wears me thin, and can cause complete chaos in our home. Mondays are the day I look forward to the most, because then after 2 days of constant battles, he is in school all day. When he is in school our house is so calm, and quiet. My other two play so well. House stays clean. Then he comes home, and the second he is in the car, someone is already crying from something he has done, and within an hour my house looks like a tornado hit. It can be very taxing.
  We have an appointment tomorrow to meet with a Early Childhood psychologist, so we will see what she has to say. Unfortunately, when she did the home visit, he steered clear of her and put himself into a shell so she didn't get to see any of his behaviors. Makes me a little worried she won't be able to do anything for us.
   Just need a way to help him be able to be a normal child. Make friends. learn to control himself and his emotions, and of course make our home a little happier.


Today's issue? So far.... Stole a cookie. Saw him do it, and told him to put it back. His response? "I don't have a cookie". I said "Show me your hands".. he does, and I keep watching him as he backs away. He ALMOST gets out of the kitchen and his sister picks up the cookies he threw down and puts them away. I ask why he lied. He says "I didn't". last 5 mins. he has been in the other room crying saying "Give me back my cookies. You can't have them. You're mean. I want cookies. Give me cookies now"....